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Question: Since relatively short into my new job (but for more than 6 months now), I have been crying a lot. I have been crying in front of my boss sometimes twice a week... Obviously, it is embarrassing, but I have been crying in excess of my feelings - I feel frustrated, sad, to a certain extent, but my crying does not feel, to me, in line with my feelings. I have always been sensitive, but there is a difference between crying twice in six months, in the toilets where nobody can see, and twice in a week, in front of your boss. I wonder: - is it the circumstances? Maybe this is more stressful because I travel a lot, and often feel I am late in my work, and often feel "made to compete" with colleagues - even though there have been times before where I worked longer hours. I also was in love with my boss for the first two months (he did not know it) but I have long decided that it was not going to happen and turned a new leaf - could I just be still affected by that. After all, my crying is virtually only with my boss (I have not cried because of colleagues and in front of colleagues even once, as far as I remember). - Is it me who have changed? Would it be mentally? Yet, I am not depressed, I am not feeling overall sad, I am glad to be doing the job I do, but there is this crying which is so frustrating as all my efforts to control this (thinking I do not care, etc etc) have failed. I could be developing another mental illness, yet I am around 40 and even though I am a female, the likelihood of it is relatively limited (and I do not know what mental illness that would be). Would it be that I changed physically? I know some issues (including thyroid related or obviously anything affecting the brain) can cause apparent changes in mood / emotions. But, despite the fact that I fit some symptoms of hypothyroidism online, I am still a far cry from a "poster child" for any major physical disturbance likely to also affect emotions. So what? The issue is, I need to solve this. For my sanity. Incidentally for that of my boss. And also because yesterday he told me that I needed help with my self-confidence (he talked about my personal life, but I am sure he was thinking of how this would be important for my professional life too). If I do not control my crying, I am afraid of all the repercussions in my life. Note: I only cried regularly once in front of a boss. That was when I was working everyday, including weekends, until 2 in the morning and waking up at 8 for a new day of work. I was also in love with that boss (and at the time I had not turned a new leaf), but there were also many more "normal" justifications: the hours of work, the lack of "thank you" and the criticisms every time something was a little bit wrong (even though in the end I was praised for my overall stellar work)...
Answer: There are a lot of things going on in what you are describing. When someone is describing so much, it is good when the person seems to have good insight into parts of what is going on as it makes it easier to gain insight about other parts. It is also possible that some of the things described or things related to them (such as another mental disorder or an exacerbation of an existing disorder) could be involved even if you think they are not possible. The best course of action is to find someone you can see and talk to who can help along your path at this time. With help, it is possible to find peace and wholeness in your situation. If you are in the New York area, we would be able to walk with you through that journey at Seeking Shalom.   
Question: child wont sleep and he believes people are coming for him and they can see him thru the phone. what should I do?
Answer: Tanisha,   There are lots of factors that could be involved in your child's situation.   Your child may be at that imagination stage where lots of things that adults see as not real are real for your child. If that is the case, are there other areas of your child's life and your child's life in their imagination that can be employed to help them in this situation?   Your child could have experienced events that were traumatic to them - such as child protective services taking them or someone they know out of their home or knowing of custody battles that had someone pulled away from where they saw as home. These types of situations will require careful processing and reassurance based on the local situation and the likelihood for the future.   Having the child be actively involved in things that are reassuring can be helpful. This could be in ensuring that home is secure before bed, could be in bed time prayers for protection, could be in knowing who has called, could be in self monitoring of what is watched on tv, etc.    In all of this, it might be helpful to have a qualified outside person (counselor or therapist) be a safe place for your child to talk for a little while. Not sleeping can in turn cause all sorts of problems on its own.   It is possible to restore wholeness and peace in this situation.   Shalom.  
Question: Good evening doctor. Lately I have found myself extremely depressed, filled with anxiety and overwhelmed as a whole. I am currently a student and with both I am finding it extremely hard to concentrate. I am coming up to a time in my schooling where I have to go out into the field and I'm afraid my anxiety and lack of concentration will greatly effect my performance. I have never been on any medication for any of these symptoms but I would like to try anything that will help me focus on my future career. What can I do? Caitlin
Answer: Being aware of the difficulties you are having is a very helpful step to being able to start addressing things and finding your way back to wholeness and peace in your life. When you know that the symptoms that you are having will become a barrier to your success, getting help is certainly the right thing to do. It is possible that there are options for medication that can be helpful in situations such as the one that you describe, but to determine this you would need to consult with and be treated by a psychiatrist. From the description of some of the things that this has been rooted in, you would also be advised to seek out psychotherapy to go along with the use of medication. This provides the opportunity for people who have things going on like you have described to address some of the underlying contributors to feelings of depression and anxiety as well as to develop coping techniques that will maximize your chance of success. Ideally, when this course of action is followed, the psychotherapist and psychiatrist will be able to work together and with you form a team to address everything that is going on.

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