Nov
2014

Q&A: Why do I get silent, anti-social, when a person I just met makes me feel uncomfortable?

Ask A Doctor Question: 

Why do I get silent, anti-social, when a person I just met makes me feel uncomfortable? I've had this issue for quite along time and to be honest I thought I overcame it but.. I guess I didn't. I realize when I meet new people that I'm not familiar with it makes me feel uncomfortable. Actually.. Let's be more clear. There are some new people I meet and I immediately click with or feel comfortable with but with other new people I meet I feel like I can read their facial expressions and body language and the conversation that they aren't enjoying it so I get quiet. And that feeling just carries over to my other conversations with my other friends. I won't talk to anyone after I've been uncomfortable. I hate that feeling. I feel like it hinders me. I hate how that feeling can affect me to not want to talk. Well my question is.. Is this normal? Why do I feel this way? and most importantly how do I overcome this issue once and for all?

Answer: 

Steven J Chen, Ph.D. - LocateADoc.com

There are a number of reasons why you may feel uncomfortable.
It is possible you may have Social Anxiety and this condition
may impact the way you interact or choose not to interact
with others.
 
Another common condition is a lack of assertiveness.
This can influence the way you interact with others.
 
The best thing to do is to get an evaluation from a qualified
mental health professional to see if there is an underlying
diagnosis or some condition that is impacting your behavior.

--Steven J Chen, Ph.D.
Draper, UT

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