Q&A: What can we do to conceive a child without paying a surrogate?
posted on 3/16/2015
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My wife and I would like to have a child, however, she has had a hysterectomy, and is only left with one ovary. She is 42, and I`m 39. We would like to use an egg from her, and sperm from me, and we have a friend located in MD that is willing to carry the baby for us. What do we need to do to get started without having to pay a surrogacy clinic outrages amounts of money? We have no idea of where to start. The woman that is willing to carry our child for us is currently pregnant, and due in June, how long after she has the child do we have to wait to have her carry ours? Thank you..
--Allen Morgan, MD
Pregnancy at 42 is possible. However, the likelihood of miscarriage increases substantially with increasing age, particularly after 40. There are a few questions that need to be answered prior to giving you more specific answers. At your wife’s age of 42, if we are able to identify a normal embryo, your chances of having a child improve. In order to do this, genetic testing of your embryos may be necessary. Since you have a gestational carrier willing to help you, this can minimize a large portion of the costs associated with these cycles. As your gestational carrier is pregnant, she would have to wait probably 6 months to 1 year prior to being able to carry your child. This may also depend on how she delivers her child (ie vaginal vs cesarean section). One of the most important aspects of your case is your wife’s age. I would recommend that you seek a full infertility evaluation soon. You can, and should, proceed with in vitro fertilization with embryo freezing expeditiously to hopefully maximize her chance of creating a normal embryo as this rate declines with age. Please feel free to call our office for a free phone consultation if you have any additional questions. Good luck!
--Jessica Mann, MD, FACOG
Thank you for your email inquiry. The first step would be to schedule a new patient infertility consultation so that the physician can determine whether you are able to use your own eggs or not and whether surrogacy is the best route. There is some preliminary testing that needs to be completed before knowing your ovarian reserve and what your true options are.
If you are interested in scheduling an appointment with our clinic, please call our office to schedule a new patient visit.
Please let me know if you have further questions.
--Christopher D Williams, MD
1. Likely poor ovarian function due to age and one ovary – best to get and freeze embryo (if possible) then work on agreement with GC
2. Best to wait one year between pregnancies but can consider 6 months
3. Need good legal counsel with experience in GC agreements to move forward
--Wendy J Schillings, MD, FACOG
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